You’re single, now what?
It’s a couples world and all of us single pringles are just living in it, right? Wrong! There are so man perks of being single, they’re just not celebrated enough.
How many of you have seen this headline posted on a magazine cover or online? Personally, I find it annoying! I don’t feel like being single is the end of the world, it can actually be one of the most rewarding times of your life! I hate that these headlines are usually paired with articles like:
“10 ways to get your crush’s attention.”
“Top five things you’re doing wrong in relationships.”
I hate that these articles are written to make people unworthy of love by being single. It gives people the mentality that being single means you’re now destined for a life of being undesirable, too flawed, and worth less than someone in a relationship.
THEY’RE DEAD WRONG!
With Valentines Day upon us, and as someone who has spent the majority of her life as a Single Pringle, I thought I would give you my top five perks of being single.
Perk #1: The Freedom
The first perk about being single is you only have yourself to think about! Want to go out with friends? Go paint the town red! Metaphorically speaking, of course, do not paint anything that doesn’t belong to you. Find a job opportunity in another city that sounds amazing? Take the job! Want to focus on your career? Go be the badass boss you were born to be! See a cute guy at the bar? Go talk to him! You can do whatever, and whomever, you want! As long as it’s consensual…don’t forget that part, it’s important. Your schedule is yours, no more having to work around someone else’s.
Perk #2: It is a great learning experience!
Let’s face it, your relationship ended for a reason, and I doubt it was 100% the other person’s fault. I’m sure 95% was because of them, but no one is totally perfect lol. Being single gives you the opportunity to take a deeper look at what went wrong. Take a good look at the things you need to work on to make the next relationship better. It gives you the time to think about what qualities you really need in a partner. I highly suggest making a deal breakers list. You also get the chance to figure out what YOU want!
Perk #3: More time with your friends and family
As much as we like to deny it, sometimes our friendships take a backseat to our relationships. It’s ok, it happens! Now that you’re single, you have tons of time to catch up with those friends you haven’t seen in a while. If you were one of those couples who do everything together, your friends would be pumped to have you all to themselves again!
Perk #4: Things are exciting again
Do you remember what it was like when you first got together with your, now, ex? Did you get butterflies? Do you remember how exciting it was to get a text or a phone call from the person you were crushing on? Remember when everything was rainbows and sunshine? Everything is exciting when it’s new! Once things start going downhill, or you’re together for a while, those feelings start to fade away. Now that you’re single, you get to feel those warm, fuzzy, feelings all over again! Sure, the thought of possibly catching feelings for someone else, and getting hurt, might be a little scary; but you’re kind of excited about it, aren’t you?
Perk #5: You can focus on the life you want to live
With every relationship comes compromise. It could be anything from where to go eat, to where to live, depending on the seriousness of your relationship. Was there somewhere you wanted to live, or a job you wanted to take, but didn’t because your partner didn’t want to leave? Have you been dreaming of the day you have kids and a family, but your partner didn’t want that? Now you can find someone who wants the same things you do. Are you someone who needs a lot of “me” time? You can have that now! You don’t have to constantly worry about if you’re neglecting someone.
I hope you enjoyed these five perks of being single! Of course, I’m no expert on dating or anything, but I have been single quite a lot. Being single can be just as great as being in a loving relationship. You’re still loved, worthy, and deserving of great things. Don’t ever let anyone make you feel differently! If you’re looking to work on your self-love, click here to read my post and join the Self-Love Club!
xo Little J
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